not much new

I haven't had time to write. I have Silvia during the week now, as her dad is working lots of overtime and can't make it in time to pick her up from daycare. Of course, he could ask someone else to pick her up, so he could see his daughter, or stay over at his mom's and leave her with her for a day, but these wonderful ideas do not cross his mind. probably because I am not around to suggest them. Anyway, I let him have her last weekend (which was scheduled as my weekend) since he is not seeing her during the week.

So now he is not allowing me to have her for the day on Saturday as promised so that she could come with the family to the King Tut exhibition. I had asked and confirmed 3 times already, so yesterday I call to find out if I am taking her home Friday night, or where to pick her up Saturday morning. He said no, he is not seeing her enough since I have her during the week. Unless I want to switch next weekend with him. UMMMMM.. YOU are choosing to work all the overtime, so how is it only to my benefit to take over his parenting responsibilities during the week? I told him I can't switch weekends, I have plans for both days next week and since he's had her for 3 weekends in a row I filled the weekend. So she can't come.

I'm not actually surprised that he would change his mind at the last minute, it's not a new thing for him. Once again he has shown his control by promising me something fairly, then taking it away at the last minute. I understand that he is not seeing her as much now, but I only get her for 3 hours a night (the rest is sleeping) and there is no time to do anything together. I was only asking for about 6 hours of time, and I was willing to make the hour drive both ways. I didn't buy the tickets, a friend did, and she had no idea I wouldn't have Silvia that day. Of course he was nice and polite about it, so that if I got mad I would look insane. I didn't get mad though. No need to give him the satisfaction, I just told him if he changed his mind to let me know by tonight.

So this weekend I am going to finalize our separation agreement with some edits and hopefully I can have a lawyer look at it next week. I will offer it formally next week, at the same time I serve him with the custody papers. It will be up to him how this proceeds.