she didn't go

He called me back Friday. Said he did not say she couldn't come to the King Tut exhibition. WHAT? I told him he had. He said no. My response: I know what you said. Don't try to tell me you said maybe, because you didn't. Don't try and convince me you said something else, I remember what you said. I was at work, so I told him to call me later. I was not going to talk.

So he calls me back Friday night. Tells me that if I have the details I could still take her. I told him I didn't know the details, and I didn't have them because he had said no. He still insisted he hadn't. What is he trying to do? Try to convince me I heard something else? I think I can remember, since I was completely upset that he changed his mind at the last minute.

I told him I would finalize the separation agreement and get him a copy so he can take it to a lawyer. THen he said he would not sign it unless he was able to move to Ajax and enroll Silvia in school there!! YES that is what he said. I told him that I've already explained that having Silvia in school in Ajax means that 50/50 can't work. He told me to move to Ajax! I told him if he didn't want to sign the separation agreement then he was to arrange for us to go to mediation, but I would not be agreeing that he enroll Silvia in school. He cannot make an arrangement to have her in school there on the possibility that he will have a job in that area and will not be able to drive to Vaughan. Agreements will be based on the current situation, and that no judge would allow him to do something that would prevent the 50/50 from continuing, if there was a way that would make it work.

I also insisted that enrolling her in school there would not be in her best interests, as she would not be able to see her mother as much. I told him that 50/50 is best for her, and anything that reduces that amount of time with either parent is not good. No judge would order that.

I am planning on serving him after her Christmas concert on Saturday. I will also give him a copy of the separation agreement, and maybe even names of collaborative lawyers. I am leaving the decision to him, he gets to decide if we co-operate or if he fights. I leave the responsibility up to him. For once in his life he will get to make a decision and have the sole responsibility of the consequences, good or bad. HE will not be able to blame the outcome on me, I have provided him will all the options and am willing to go along with whatever one he decides. I just hope his decision is based on Silvia, and not himself.