Unreasonable?

I called ex on Monday and asked if I could have my daughter early today, as I had booked the day off and wanted to spend the day with her. His immediate answer was no, it's my time. I pointed out that he would be at work and would not lose any time with her. He said his mom was spending the day with her (but she would be with her grandmother all week).

I just wanted an extra long weekend with her since I haven't seen her in a week and my baby was hurting from her surgery.

I text him Tuesday morning saying I still would like to have her in the morning Friday. He calls back later saying I could have her, but only after he talked to his lawyer. He said he was taking the "high road" and said I was being selfish for wanting the extra time. He accused me of going away for the weekend. I responded that it was none of his business, but I wasn't anyway. He reluctantly said I could get her in the morning. I told him I wasn't sure if I could take the time off now.

So he tried calling me yesterday but I was at work, and I will not answer at work anymore because it is disruptive and we always argue. I forgot my phone charging in the car, but remembered to get in at 11:30 last night and sent him a quick text to tell him I had to work and I will pick her up at 5. He had called my cell earlier, but did not try to call the house, otherwise I would have talked to him.

So this morning he left me a message saying his car is broken down and he won't be able to bring her until after work. I don't know if it's true or not. The car was NOT broken down until he left a message at midnight last night.

This isn't the first time he has refused me extra time. I have always accomodated him and will continue to do so long as he gives me time to change my plans. I had offered to care for her on his week during the day, as I had booked vacation to do that already, but he had refused saying that it was his time and he would arrange care for her. Again, he wouldn't have lost any time with her, and she would have been cared for by her mother.

Am I being overly sensitive? I am hurt that I am not considered when she needs care just because it is "his time". I am her mother and I want to be there, but I would never take her away from him, he deserves her too. I don't know if the extra time is consediered "denial of access" but I told him I would be recording it. I understand he feels threatened by my bond with our daughter, but he is being selfish and not thinking of what is best for her. Wouldn't it be better for her to spend a little extra time with her mom?